The Dementia Solar System Theory by Mark Griffin
Helping others to understand Dementia and characteristics related.
There are many specialists out there who are extremely passionate about Dementia. All whom have their own theories and idea’s yet ultimately, all have the same vision. For those living with Dementia to receive the best possible support they deservingly need.
Teepa Snow is a Dementia enthusiast, educator and specialist who invented “The Gems” theory which has proven to be a pivotal education model for her and the team around her supporting others. See link below for Teepa’s approach for different stages of Dementia. Where I have chosen to focus on characteristics within Dementia. https://teepasnow.com/blog/6-gems-you-need-to-know-fora-positive-approach-to-dementia-care/
I was pondering ideas to assist in supporting this theory, but with a twist. Do I choose animals?
I soon realised, referring to someone as a Lion because they are strong willed, a sloth or a turtle due to having reduced mobility could appear very insensitive and in away inhumane, although this would have never been the intention.
I also considered destinations, landmarks and even the 7 wonders of the world. Yet again, I struggled to give some of these a meaning which people could relate to in Dementia and different characteristics related.
Days, weeks and months passed. Then I hit a gem after going through some idea’s with my friend (which was his idea).
The Rubik Cube theory. This would be based on the following idea:
“A Rubik’s cube has 6 sides, it starts clear with all the pieces in tact. Just as we view our brain to be, in what we consider “healthy” or with all our facilities in tact (if there is such a thing).
As the brain deteriorates, the Rubik cube starts twisting and turning and we see this once fully intact cube, start to slowly become muddled. And although the full pieces are still there, unfortunately, “it’s just not all together”.
However, trying to explain the colours, or attempting to give it more purpose and meaning, I soon began to struggle. So, this theory was soon squashed and now back to the drawing board.
7am on a wet and windy morning I was lay in my bed. It hit me, “what about the solar system” I said to my wife. Not just the planets, but the Sun and the Moon, they all have deep meanings with different key features. Moreover, what is more beautiful than the solar system.
Choosing these wasn’t going to be easy, but as long as I could find a purpose and put characteristics with them, surely it has to be a winner. Ultimately, as long as those reading this can relate to those they care for and learn at the same time, my research, time, effort and love for those living with Dementia will be worth it.
Throughout my Solar System Theory, it should be noted there are also many additional ways we can support those living with Dementia (scroll to the bottom of the page for more details) which can be accessed by booking a free 15 minute consultation with Mark Griffin.
Relating everyday characteristics in Dementia to The Solar System and every day life. We may find our loved ones visiting multiple destinations, all in one day depending on their journey. Very much like Orion’s Belt that changes it’s position each night as well, so it *IS* in a slightly different place every night.
The Moon Characteristics
The moonlight’s up in the night sky. Scientists aren’t entirely sure how the Moon formed. However, we do know as a person’s Dementia progresses, their brain may make less melatonin, which makes it harder to fall asleep in the evening.
We describe these characteristics as “The Moon”. Those struggling with sleep and rest are often awake at night and may occasionally sleep during the day. Yet, on a clear day, they may still be seen during daytime hours, just as the Moon can be seen on clear days. People working in nursing homes and hospitals will almost always say that a full moon changes residents’ behaviour.
It can be possible to assist with sleeping patterns, keep those busy with physical activities and different forms of mental stimulation where practical. Where this is ineffective, professional help can assist (see your local G.P and memory team for further information).
It is also necessary to consider nutritional intake. If our Moon characteristics sleep during the day, they will require their meals at night to maintain their health and well-being. It is also helpful to think of hobbies and interests to keep others stimulated during the night, this may even contribute to burning off some energy.
The Sun
The Sun is described as a hot glowing ball of hydrogen and helium. I can’t help but think of showing emotions to a situation in Dementia, including verbal, physical or even sexual – these all depend on the time of the day, month or year. Depending on the heat radiating from the Sun, your environment can appear cool. Yet, at the height of summer (when a person shows overwhelming emotions), this can seem unmanageable. But on the lovely days, you couldn’t wish for better weather (person is relaxed and all are enjoying their day).
Calm approaches are highly recommended, so note what works and what doesn’t. When approaching these characteristics, try to build a “tool bag” (things that become your go-to that mostly have a positive reaction).
Look at the person’s diet and fluids – avoid stimulating products such as caffeine or high-sugar foods. Providing stimulating food and drink can be similar to encouraging “a hyperactive personality by giving them Skittles” for those familiar with the saying. Try introducing decaf coffee, tea, and sweeteners instead of sugars, where possible. Try to avoid alcohol, which is becoming more accessible as there are now many alcohol-free drinks on the market. We don’t want to be stimulating the brain if we can help it for those with the Sun characteristics (this is also helpful for The Moon and Mercury characteristics)
Mercury Characteristics
Mercury is the closest planet to the Sun and is described as “zipping around the Sun”. The fastest planet to orbit the Sun, we describe Mercury’s characteristics to those who can never seem to sit down. They often walk purposefully, making you feel the need to sit down, watching their never-ending energy.
Try to avoid encouraging Mercury characteristics “to sit down”. They really do struggle to concentrate and relax. Instead, offer more meaningful activities and provide a sense of purpose by helping with daily tasks such as folding the washing, setting the tables, wiping the chairs down and dusting, to name a few. These are all achievable tasks with the correct person-centered support and approach.
Offering a cup of tea does work occasionally, but note how long this is effective, as it will not be long before they are back on the go. Although you are scared of the risks of walking, it is our job to make the environment as safe as possible and remove all trip hazards such as extension leads, small coffee tables, bedside tables, etc. Look at supportive footwear rather than “slip-on shoes”. Place furniture close to each other where possible for those unable to use walking aids to assist with “furniture walking”—place handrails where also practical, as these little changes will make your environment safer.
If you are struggling with their nutrition because you can not sit down, try finger foods they enjoy that can be quickly eaten on the go.
Jupiter Characteristics
Jupiter is the largest planet of them all. Meaning larger than life characteristics, always happy, smiley and likes to greet everyone. They can still have some moments where they express their emotions, particularly around sundowning.
Allow Jupiter’s characteristics to remain content and support them in their daily lives and activities. Encouraging activities does assist those living with Dementia in “having a purpose and feeling important.” We all need to be needed on some level. During Sundown, we can see a change in other characteristics as there may be a complete 180-degree turn from one second to another.
In moments like this, we need to offer reassurance, NOT disagree, but redirect where possible and offer distractions. Knowing what Jupiter’s characteristics do like is the key. Finally, provide relaxing solutions; this may be hand massage, nail care, a warm bath with low lighting or even animal care, such as a loving pet to cuddle. These are some well-proven ways to help you through sundowning moments. (Also, very compatible with other characteristics such as The Sun, The Moon and Venus).
Earth Characteristics
Earth—Out of all the planets, Earth is the only one with life and is made up of 70% water. Earth has different seasons and changes in the weather, just like those living with Dementia. I describe Earth for those showing characteristics of confusion. Often, they appear self-sufficient and are self-maintained with little or no help. However, small interventions are occasionally needed to ensure people remain safe.
Too much involvement can cause problems; however, help is often accepted with the right approach.
Earth’s characteristics can sometimes come across as stubborn, resistant, or even distant. When this is questioned or doubted, they feel they know exactly what they want and need. This will bring out their home truths in what can seem like a personal attack on yourself or others involved. We need to be mindful and even clever when offering help and support.
If we have an idea that could keep Earth’s characteristics safer or will help them in other ways. It is always worth sharing that someone you know appeared to struggle with something similar, and they made their life so much better by doing this or that. It’s a much more receiving way for Earth characteristics to relate to and even welcome support.
Rather than saying, “Mum, I’ve noticed you’re slow on your feet these days, why don’t you get a Zimmer frame?”.
This is much more likely to be accepted if you say, “Aww, Mum, you know my friend, Lynne. Her Mum was struggling around the house for a while. She’s just got a wheeled frame, and she said it’s the best thing she has ever seen and should have gotten one years ago.” This way, you are planting a seed to get her feedback rather than degrading her independence.
Saturn Characteristics
Saturn is unique among the planets. It is not the only planet with rings, but none are as spectacular or complex as Saturn’s. I describe Saturn’s characteristics as unique. Late in the diagnosis, they are often quiet and have little ability to communicate, but like the unique rings of Saturn, they come with many complex needs. They require a lot of love and care from two carers.
Often require assistance with diet and nutrition, moving and handling, and everyday activities. Eyes can pierce through you or say a thousand words that melt your heart.
Saturn’s characteristics require us to do our research, ideally well before this stage is reached. Knowing all their likes and dislikes will help you to support them in a time when they rely on you to support their everyday independence in many ways.
Ensure that those who isolated to one room due to reduced mobilities have plenty of one-to-one human interaction. This is a special time to bond, and knowing their likes and dislikes helps in your supported time. This could include reading to them, watching T.V. with company, or listening to music together. Play their favourite music at a tone that can be tolerated in a relaxing way. Ensure mealtimes are person-centred with meals that support their tolerance levels.
Ensure fluids are encouraged, and don’t forget that some foods can assist with fluid intake, such as gravy, custards, yoghurts, ice cream, and ice lollies, to name a few.
Venus Characteristics
Venus – A day on Venus is longer than one day on Earth. Venus’s characteristics are not always oriented to time, date, or place. They enjoy their own company yet occasionally enjoy positive interactions with the people “they choose.” This will be noted if they are left with negative feelings from other interactions; unfortunately, if you remind them of someone in the past who left them feeling negative emotions, good luck.
Too much going on will cause disorientation and upset. When giving choices, “less equals more”. Too many options may be overwhelming. Refrain from finishing their sentences, but you may assist with finding occasional words. They can do things for themselves; however, do not take over; please offer support when you see struggles.
Here are some of my quick tips to help you to help others Living with Dementia:
Learn to say sorry, it really does go along way. Sorry I made you feel that way, sorry I upset you.
Do NOT argue, if you believe today is Wednesday, And I tell you it is not, Who is the one with a cognitive impairment?
Just go with it, If I said “I was at a party last night”, ask how it was and did I enjoy it.
Make others feel important, we all need to be needed on some level.
Remember, people with Dementia are confused, not stupid. So you will need to give a very reassuring answer, or a very convincing lie that is in others best interest.
Distraction is your best friend.
If you don’t know about their hobbies, interests, working life and family. Find out, FAST. (also consider, some of these maybe upsetting times, consider avoiding these and focus on the good times).
If you embrace in a meaningful conversation, please do it again later or tomorrow, you may get tired of hearing it, but it could be first time in years they have spoken about such good times.
Try to avoid an over stimulating diet and fluid intake (consider avoiding caffeine and sugar based diet and fluids where possible for those who suffer with sleep, rest and anxiety).
Never say you will be 2 minutes, give a realistic time frame as this can decrease anxiety.
Try to avoid saying “I don’t know”. Instead, try saying “I will find out for you and get back to you” (preferably in a realistic but speedily time)
Ignoring or walking away is a recipe for disaster. You may require a minute, however, attempt to reassure where possible first.
Depression in Dementia is real, look at willingness to participate in daily life activities compared to the past, do your loved ones appear more tearful, although tiredness may increase, has staying in bed become more of a routine. Nutrition become hard to work to assist with. See the following link for guidance https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/aboutdementia/symptoms-and-diagnosis/depression-dementia